I vs I

I have always believed in the power of the mind, have actally experienced it several times, and am continuing to excavate its boundless domains with each passing day. but today, i want to discuss something which actually, like always, compelled me to think and realize how big a slave we all are..of this mind!
it, as usual, had to happen with jason, my close pal as everbody knows. well, it wasnt exactly him who was involved and who i'll be writing on, but his girl friend who has a ridiculous name and has a funny music to it, called ' blimy'. i mean, what kind of name is it? i was actually telling him either to re baptize her or leave her, or, the third option, never to bring her around me coz its really irritating to call her blimy in public, i mean just imagine that awful noise the name has!!!
anyways, sorry for derailing and getting back to what i was discussing. yes, so what exacly happened was that (its a really small and funny example but i guess it makes a lot of sense) blimy(ill call her miss b) and i were walking back from a superstore and had to take a bus as the next station was at a distance and jason was waiting for us at the next station and we were already running late. so, we took the bus and just next to the only two empty seats availble was a pretty girl sitting with a huge german shepherd(for all those who dont know, thats a breed of a dog) now the dog was just laid carelessly on the floor, not caring much of whose coming and going and was pretty well mannered, and surely i was impressed by the owners capabilty of training so well, and ...was, to a certain extent impressed by the owner herself, i mean, come on, she was actually amazing looking! ok, so back to the story. so, miss b clung to my shoulder and suddenly declared that we arent taking the bus and if we are, we'll just stand. i stared at her for quite a while, a bit mortified as, well, this was the only bus that we got after such a long wait and the incompassionate (i feel like usin a bad word, but ill restrain) lady wants me to stand when because of her i was walking for 2 hours in that ugly place filled with uglier women. and that too, just because she was scared. fear.
now a question. what is fear? where does it come from? well, its a very difficult thing to say but what i understand by this term is that its the most dangerous disease anyone can have. i agree we all fear something. phobias we call them. but that just doesnt come to us one fine day like a bolt from the heaven. it has a past, a history, and the mind...knows it all. it kills you bit by bit and you dont even realize that. its slow venom, but we keep on overlooking that till the time its actually late. we all are shackled, enslaved by our own mind...by our own selves. why do we fear anything external when the serpent runs right in our heads? she didnt fear the dog, she feared the mind which compels her to believe that the dog would harm her. on the contrary, my mind was made to believe that its a harmless creature, and hence the respective reactions to a common stimulus. and remember, i am not just talking of fears as material as the example stated above, but the fears which encompasses everything we are reluctant to do, all the emotions that we fail to feel, and all the thoughts that we refuse to understand. they are all fears of our own personality and your mind is the biggest player who juggles you and you readily succumb to it with no resistance. so whats the conclusion? whats the solution?
its very simple, learn to say 'nO'. the moment you say no to your own self, your mind starts fearing you, its just a matter of self confidence, of self restraint. we constantly are in conflict with others but did we ever realize that our biggest enemy lies within us? to win the world you have to win the battle of self vs self. and trust me, the moment you succeed to hoist your flag of victory, the world will be a better place to live in.
so, ask yourself today, who do you want to be, me or...me?